A slight breeze rustled Krystal’s veil as we stepped outside for pictures. A few guests and family members tagged along aside of us, out onto the balcony at Foothills Golf Club in Phoenix. The beautifully detailed ruffles on her dress tousled by the wind as she and her bridesmaids made their way to the bright bougenvilla bush that so eloquently matched her wedding colors.
I approached the father of the bride as he peered over the terrace, observing his daughter having her portraits taken. A shy man with a gentle heart and about as humble as one gets, I had sensed his nervousness earlier when introducing myself. “How are you doing?”, I ask as my hand came to his shoulder. ”I’m alright I guess. I had a drink and that seemed to calm me down a bit.” His reply came with a sigh and slight shake to his voice. He looks out again at Krystal enjoying herself with her bridesmaids and then confidingly turns towards me, “I’ll be good walking her down the aisle but what I’m most nervous about is dancing with her. I don’t know how to dance.”
My heart went out to him. Knowing that I had a few minutes to myself while Laura, the lead photographer from Laura Segall Photography, was with Krystal, I set down my camera gear and turned to him. His eyes were watering. “Would you like me to show you how to dance with her?” I took his hand in mine and placed the other at my waist. Slowly, he followed my lead. Giving me the biggest smile. Ever.
Moments like this, in my career as a wedding photographer, are some of the most rewarding to me. Lending a helping hand and opening my heart, I witness one man’s transformation from being shy and nervous, to confident and handsome. In an instant.
After all, that’s what life’s about. The experience of living, helping one another, and caring deeply even for those you don’t know. And at the end of the day, playing a larger role in someone else’s world. I’m not just the wedding photographer. I’m a friend. A confidante. A helping hand. And I couldn’t be more grateful and appreciative that I have the gift of bringing a smile to the eyes of the father-of-the-bride.
“It’s not how much we give but how much love we put into giving.”
Congratulations Krystal + James!
I think things turned out pretty well, don’t you?