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How To Get Your Groom More Involved With The Wedding Planning

I walked into Zolton’s salon the other day for a trim with my favorite stylist, Natalie, and not another moment goes by after we greet one another that she sits me down and the first two words out of her mouth were, “I’m engaged!!” Of course I had todish for the juicy details about where, when, and how he proposed to her. (I know you’re excited to hear about it but you’ll have to wait for when I post pics of Natalie + Ryan’s engagement session!)

After hearing her story about the proposal, we explored countless ideas about wedding venuesaround the Phoenix area. She commented on how Ryan seemed to be more concerned about the wedding plans than she is. Even taking her by surprise when herequested her presence at the recent Phoenix Bridal Show that took place last month. She had no idea there was even a bridal show going on until he said something.

This is one of the very few times I’ve heard about the groom being this involved with the wedding planning. And I must admit, I’m liking this.

This conversation had me thinking . . . What is out there to help the guys become more interested in the wedding details? How can you delegate tasks to the groom to ease the the pain of planning?Needless to say, I ran home with my fingers twitching at the excitement of touching my computer keyboard to do a little research.

Groom with groomsmen

I found about 5 different websites geared towards the groom. Ranging from blogs by recently married guys to full on registry sites strictly for the recently engaged or near-engaged men. Weeding through them, I found the most valuable ones worth mentioning. Of the five, only two remain.

1. The Groom Says

A blog about one groom’s experience from the beginning stages of his wedding planning all the way beyond the day he got married. It may be slightly outdated but I think he has some valuable information on there for someone looking for another groom’s perspective and advice.

2. The Man Registry

A site that holds the core of any man’s wedding planning questions, humorous rants, gift guide, bachelor party ideas, etc. etc. It’s got the 411. A VERY helpful guide. Some particular articles I’ve found could be useful:

Wedding Vow Writing Tips

Stocking the Bar for a Rehearsal Dinner

Should I Ask Her Father Permission to Propose?

Hopefully these sites will, at the very least, get your groom’s brain geared up for planning your wedding together.

And don’t forget about the other ways to get your groom more involved:

Provide him with a visual guide. Clip magazine images of what you envision for your wedding and show him a folder of what you like. Encourage him to browse through and find things that he likes.

Talk to him. Maybe he just assumes this is your thing and doesn’t realize he’s allowed to participate. There’s so many misconceptions that planning a wedding is the woman’s role and the guy just shows up in a suit. The wedding is about the both of you. It’ll be more fun for him to bring in his ideas as well and collaborate with you.

Realize that your wedding will not be perfect. Don’t hold the reins too tightly and try to control every aspect of the wedding in fear that what he wants won’t match the wedding theme. Keep an open mind to his wishes, desires, and whims and who knows. . . his idea might just be a brilliant one!

table setting place card

Use his skills. Is he a website designer? Give him the details like colors, theme, etc. and let him design your save-the-date website. Graphic designer? Have him create the invitations.

If it’s an area he’s truly interested in, he’ll jump right in and enjoy it all the more.

Remember you have a partner in crime. There will always be something you don’t want to do and can delegate to the other. That’s what’s so great about having a life partner. You’ve given him a task that he enjoys but that shouldn’t leave you with the rest of the planning details that you don’t enjoy doing. If you don’t like being on the phone and contacting vendors to set up appointments, have him do it. All you have to do is ask.

Let him decompress. I’m sure that the moment you’re engaged you start thinking about your wedding day. You’re all pumped up about it. You get on Pinterest and pin away hours looking at dresses, decorations, cakes, bridal wear. It’s an all day thing being consumed by the wedding, WeDding, WEDDING! When there’s a lapse in between thoughts during your work day – A stroll to the bathroom and you’re thinking about how brides could possibly maneuver the bathroom stall in a big ball gown. Hah . . . I’ve seen it all!

The last thing he wants as soon as he walks in the door is to be bombarded by questions about wedding planning. With your biggest smile, ask him how his day was, give him a hug, and allow him an hour or two to decompress from his day.


All else fails. Make him lick the stamps.


Have any tips or resources to add to this article? Let us know by commenting below!
Jeff - June 11, 2012 - 8:36 am

So great to see you offer some great ways to get grooms more involved in their wedding. It’s so important. Also wanted to mention that we’ve got a great wedding site just for guys called The Groom’s List, with bullet points, lists and videos. We’ve even got a special Wedding Checklist to walk the groom through the entire wedding process:


angelarose - June 11, 2012 - 9:07 am

Jeff! Thank you for letting us know about your site. What a great source of information for the grooms! And Jeff, your proposal brought me near to tears!!! So sweet! =)

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Bamboo Paneled Photos | New Wall Art

We are proud to announce that we have new wall art to offer our wedding and lifestyle portrait clients! Bamboo paneled photos are in!They’re solid. Rich. Smooth. Sustainable. AndAbsolutely Stunning.

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I haven’t decided which wall to put it on so I’ll just admire it from the couch for a bit..

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Wedding Venue Review | Maricopa Manor

As a Wedding + Event Network member, I experience, first-hand, up-coming wedding venues around the Phoenix valley. Mingling with other wedding vendors, enjoying refreshmentsand experiencing the venues.

This months venue was a gem of a find. The Maricopa Manor in downtown Phoenix. A very little -known bed + breakfast tucked away down a side street. Pulling up to the venue, I wasn’t even sure I was in the right place. But having faith in my iPhone’s capability of pin-pointing the location, I parked the car and jumped out. Early as ever, I walked up to the entrance and through the inviting black iron gate, suddenly being transported to a quaint villa in Tuscany. I definitely didn’t feel like I was in Phoenix anymore. The small details all around the property from ceramic planters, tightly woven stone walkway, decorative fountains, and beautifully laid out grounds set the mood for a very humble and intimate wedding party.

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maricopa manor in phoenix az

The owner, Joan, is very sweet and down-to-earth. She offered all the specs of the venue. Six unique suites to choose from and use as a bridal suite. They all have private baths and two include personal jacuzzis. The immediate family members can certainly stay a few nights here before and after the wedding. Something very favorable for out-of-town guests or if you’re coming for a destination wedding.

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maricopa manor in phoenix az

maricopa manor in phoenix az

Disclaimer: All of these photos were taken with my iPhone


The venue can hold between sixty to seventy guests and you have the option of two different ceremony settings. One under a beautiful tree on the backside of the main building. For the most part, the trees provide most of the privacy from the next door neighbors and the flowers that surround the property offer a sort of outline that adds to the charm of the ceremony site. The other side provides a gardenesque setting again surrounded by trees and large bushes. It definitely has the appeal of a backyard wedding set in old Italy. One of the best perks of this venue is that there can never be two weddings happening at the same time here. Something that often happens at resorts.

Things to consider when looking at Maricopa Manor:

  • Outside catering is a must as well as B.Y.O.B.
  • Everything is outside and it might be a tight fit if you should need a tent for coverage from the random rainy days we experience in the desert.
  • Decorations such as lighting are encouraged to add ambiance to the atmosphere.
  • Close quarters. If you’re not into seeing one another prior to the ceremony, you might have some trouble hiding if you don’t have people coordinating your every move.
  • The dance floor is located directly in the middle of the property. It’s probably about an area as big as 24×24, but I’m such a petite girl I tend to be off on sizing things proportionately. Things appear bigger to me than they really are. Like dance floors and tall men.


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